Comments on: Postpartum Depression? Me? http://babyshrink.com/2008/03/postpartum-depr.html Child and parent development by licensed psychologist, Dr. Heather. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 22:24:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: BabyShrink http://babyshrink.com/2008/03/postpartum-depr.html/comment-page-1#comment-24 BabyShrink Sun, 09 Mar 2008 12:03:20 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/2008/03/postpartum-depression-me.html#comment-24 GO, MAMABIGDOG, GO!! PPD IS THE MOST COMMON COMPLICATION OF PREGNANCY/DELIVERY. Really! We have to get the word out so that other Moms can be helped. You are so right. We have to start being REAL about what motherhood is often like. BabyShrink is all about exactly that -- helping parents see the whole picture -- for the benefit of our kids, ourselves, and our marriages. We'll all be much happier in the long run if we can be honest about the best -- AND WORST -- parts of parenting. Thank you for joining in the discussion and adding to the numbers of moms out there who are comfortable in saying these things. Keep coming back for more good stuff! And keep coming back to help others -- just like I'm sure you did with your comment! GO, MAMABIGDOG, GO!!
PPD IS THE MOST COMMON COMPLICATION OF PREGNANCY/DELIVERY. Really! We have to get the word out so that other Moms can be helped.

You are so right. We have to start being REAL about what motherhood is often like. BabyShrink is all about exactly that — helping parents see the whole picture — for the benefit of our kids, ourselves, and our marriages. We’ll all be much happier in the long run if we can be honest about the best — AND WORST — parts of parenting.

Thank you for joining in the discussion and adding to the numbers of moms out there who are comfortable in saying these things. Keep coming back for more good stuff! And keep coming back to help others — just like I’m sure you did with your comment!

]]> By: mamabigdog http://babyshrink.com/2008/03/postpartum-depr.html/comment-page-1#comment-23 mamabigdog Sun, 09 Mar 2008 11:36:29 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/2008/03/postpartum-depression-me.html#comment-23 This is what bugs me- women who tell other first-time pregnant women how wonderful and perfect being a mom will be, how "natural" it will be for them, how they will experience love like never before, etc. Talk about unrealistic expectations! I went to the baby shower of a friend I've known for over 20 years. All the women at the shower were saying all these things to her. I told her straight out- it might not be that way for you, it might be hard at first, you might feel resentful, scared or just too plain exhausted to be "glowing earth mama". And that's OK. It's normal. Talk to your doc if it goes on more than three days and you'll be fine. You will be a great mom, you will love you baby more than life itself, it just may come to you in a different way that the "light shining down" perfection people may lead you to believe. The other women at the shower were outraged. How dare I tell her it will be less than perfect? Six months after the baby came, I was talking to my friend, and she told me I was right. No one else told her the truth but me, and she was glad I did. Because it was hard at first, and now she's the best mom I've ever seen. Start by telling new moms-to-be the truth. Stop lying to them. It doesn't help to create a fantasy you know doesn't exist for everyone. This is what bugs me- women who tell other first-time pregnant women how wonderful and perfect being a mom will be, how “natural” it will be for them, how they will experience love like never before, etc. Talk about unrealistic expectations!

I went to the baby shower of a friend I’ve known for over 20 years. All the women at the shower were saying all these things to her. I told her straight out- it might not be that way for you, it might be hard at first, you might feel resentful, scared or just too plain exhausted to be “glowing earth mama”. And that’s OK. It’s normal. Talk to your doc if it goes on more than three days and you’ll be fine. You will be a great mom, you will love you baby more than life itself, it just may come to you in a different way that the “light shining down” perfection people may lead you to believe.

The other women at the shower were outraged. How dare I tell her it will be less than perfect?

Six months after the baby came, I was talking to my friend, and she told me I was right. No one else told her the truth but me, and she was glad I did. Because it was hard at first, and now she’s the best mom I’ve ever seen.

Start by telling new moms-to-be the truth. Stop lying to them. It doesn’t help to create a fantasy you know doesn’t exist for everyone.

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