Comments on: BabyShrink’s Hubby Referees Playground Battles http://babyshrink.com/2008/08/babyshrinks-hubby-referees-playground-battles.html Child and parent development by licensed psychologist, Dr. Heather. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 06:45:47 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: attiton http://babyshrink.com/2008/08/babyshrinks-hubby-referees-playground-battles.html/comment-page-1#comment-816 attiton Fri, 15 Aug 2008 22:45:55 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/?p=90#comment-816 I don't have a school-aged child yet, but last week was the first week at daycare that, when it was time to go home, Rabbit actually tried to grab as many toys as possible as if to say, "If I have to go, so do all these things!" Was she ransoming the toys, I wonder? I'm doing my best to focus on how much fun she must be having there, but I will admit some mommy-privilege and note that I'm taking it somewhat personally. I don’t have a school-aged child yet, but last week was the first week at daycare that, when it was time to go home, Rabbit actually tried to grab as many toys as possible as if to say, “If I have to go, so do all these things!” Was she ransoming the toys, I wonder? I’m doing my best to focus on how much fun she must be having there, but I will admit some mommy-privilege and note that I’m taking it somewhat personally.

]]> By: Dr. Heather http://babyshrink.com/2008/08/babyshrinks-hubby-referees-playground-battles.html/comment-page-1#comment-800 Dr. Heather Fri, 15 Aug 2008 03:25:03 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/?p=90#comment-800 It's pretty remarkable to watch them negotiate things on their own, when they don't think we're there...and how much it all changes as soon as they see we ARE there! It shows how much capacity they do have to work out many of these things, and how much we can actually interfere with things going well. (I'd love to think they need us every step of the way, but the sad -- and wonderful -- truth is that they often get along JUST FINE without us!) ;( Today was the first day of kindergarten over here, and there was a little boy totally upset and clinging to Mom before school. But as soon as she left -- guess what? He had a great day. (Poor Mom spent the day wringing her hands, worrying that he was too young to start school, that he would be crying the whole day...but at pickup, he was GREAT!) It’s pretty remarkable to watch them negotiate things on their own, when they don’t think we’re there…and how much it all changes as soon as they see we ARE there! It shows how much capacity they do have to work out many of these things, and how much we can actually interfere with things going well.

(I’d love to think they need us every step of the way, but the sad — and wonderful — truth is that they often get along JUST FINE without us!)

;(

Today was the first day of kindergarten over here, and there was a little boy totally upset and clinging to Mom before school. But as soon as she left — guess what? He had a great day. (Poor Mom spent the day wringing her hands, worrying that he was too young to start school, that he would be crying the whole day…but at pickup, he was GREAT!)

]]> By: Momo Fali http://babyshrink.com/2008/08/babyshrinks-hubby-referees-playground-battles.html/comment-page-1#comment-797 Momo Fali Fri, 15 Aug 2008 02:19:24 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/?p=90#comment-797 I remember when my daughter started kindergarten and the principal had a meeting for all new parents. She said that when kids have disagreements, the first course of action was to instruct them to work it out between themselves. I had never even considered that five year olds we capable of that! Kids can handle situations much better than we give them credit for. To be honest, I think we adults could learn a few lessons from THEM in how to handle conflicts (and how to NOT hold grudges). I remember when my daughter started kindergarten and the principal had a meeting for all new parents. She said that when kids have disagreements, the first course of action was to instruct them to work it out between themselves. I had never even considered that five year olds we capable of that! Kids can handle situations much better than we give them credit for. To be honest, I think we adults could learn a few lessons from THEM in how to handle conflicts (and how to NOT hold grudges).

]]> By: Jenny, Bloggess http://babyshrink.com/2008/08/babyshrinks-hubby-referees-playground-battles.html/comment-page-1#comment-734 Jenny, Bloggess Wed, 13 Aug 2008 12:38:15 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/?p=90#comment-734 Perfect advice. Perfect advice.

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