Comments on: The “Good Enough” case against over-parenting http://babyshrink.com/2009/11/the-good-enough-case-against-over-parenting.html Child and parent development by licensed psychologist, Dr. Heather. Thu, 10 May 2012 19:00:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Amie http://babyshrink.com/2009/11/the-good-enough-case-against-over-parenting.html/comment-page-1#comment-3578 Amie Mon, 28 Dec 2009 21:37:08 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/?p=755#comment-3578 Thank God people are finally coming to their senses when it comes to parenting! We need to start looking at our children as people, not products. Children who are terrified to make mistakes grow up to be anxious, performance-oriented adults without a true sense of self. I would have hated to have had parents who were in my face and in my business 24-7! Our kids need to know that they are valuable and loved even if they are not superstars. The most important aspect of parenting is having a loving connection with your child, understanding how they are special and unique as a person, and then tenderly guiding them to what counts as success for THEM. Not every child will need to go to college to be successful -- or be a part of 20 activities -- or get straight A's. We definitely need to lighten up! Thank God people are finally coming to their senses when it comes to parenting! We need to start looking at our children as people, not products. Children who are terrified to make mistakes grow up to be anxious, performance-oriented adults without a true sense of self. I would have hated to have had parents who were in my face and in my business 24-7! Our kids need to know that they are valuable and loved even if they are not superstars. The most important aspect of parenting is having a loving connection with your child, understanding how they are special and unique as a person, and then tenderly guiding them to what counts as success for THEM. Not every child will need to go to college to be successful — or be a part of 20 activities — or get straight A’s. We definitely need to lighten up!

]]> By: Tina http://babyshrink.com/2009/11/the-good-enough-case-against-over-parenting.html/comment-page-1#comment-3571 Tina Mon, 14 Dec 2009 23:30:06 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/?p=755#comment-3571 I am so glad to read this! I firmly believe that a child should have room to develop on their own, but at the same time that a parent should be engaged. Lately I've been very concerned with what chems the school is using to disinfect for H1N1. A recently released report by the Environmental Working Group, “Greener School Cleaners = Healthier Kids” identifies the fact that many cleaning supplies used in schools emit toxic airborne chemicals that our children are being exposed to: http://bit.ly/EWGGreenSchools there's also some questions for parents to ask their schools here: http://bit.ly/H1N1Schools I am so glad to read this! I firmly believe that a child should have room to develop on their own, but at the same time that a parent should be engaged. Lately I’ve been very concerned with what chems the school is using to disinfect for H1N1. A recently released report by the Environmental Working Group, “Greener School Cleaners = Healthier Kids” identifies the fact that many cleaning supplies used in schools emit toxic airborne chemicals that our children are being exposed to: http://bit.ly/EWGGreenSchools there’s also some questions for parents to ask their schools here: http://bit.ly/H1N1Schools

]]> By: Lisa http://babyshrink.com/2009/11/the-good-enough-case-against-over-parenting.html/comment-page-1#comment-3561 Lisa Mon, 30 Nov 2009 20:01:19 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/?p=755#comment-3561 This is absolutely true! I'm so glad that there are people out there who understand the reality of parenting versus the science of "doing it all just right". Children have to have that room and safety at home to try and fail and learn from the error because there is no other place they have that kind of safety net of love and guidance. Life isn't perfect, parents aren't perfect, and children aren't perfect, and as a recovering perfectionist, I have learned the value of that. Perfection means there is nothing to learn, and that's just not how life is. I have come to believe there is no one set right way to do it. Parenting is an individual approach based on the needs, strengths, weaknesses of each child. A general list of what we teach and want to accomplish can be uniform, but the 'how' portion of how we get there has to be tailored to that child, and every single one is different. I'm glad to see that others like you see this important fact as well. By the way - congratulations on your little angel, even if she's decided sleep isn't her thing. I wish I could share some of my 4 month old miracle child with you for that issue. She'll sleep sooner or later. Bless her little heart! This is absolutely true! I’m so glad that there are people out there who understand the reality of parenting versus the science of “doing it all just right”. Children have to have that room and safety at home to try and fail and learn from the error because there is no other place they have that kind of safety net of love and guidance. Life isn’t perfect, parents aren’t perfect, and children aren’t perfect, and as a recovering perfectionist, I have learned the value of that. Perfection means there is nothing to learn, and that’s just not how life is. I have come to believe there is no one set right way to do it. Parenting is an individual approach based on the needs, strengths, weaknesses of each child. A general list of what we teach and want to accomplish can be uniform, but the ‘how’ portion of how we get there has to be tailored to that child, and every single one is different. I’m glad to see that others like you see this important fact as well.

By the way – congratulations on your little angel, even if she’s decided sleep isn’t her thing. I wish I could share some of my 4 month old miracle child with you for that issue. She’ll sleep sooner or later. Bless her little heart!

]]> By: SarahNicole http://babyshrink.com/2009/11/the-good-enough-case-against-over-parenting.html/comment-page-1#comment-3560 SarahNicole Mon, 30 Nov 2009 16:36:09 +0000 http://babyshrink.com/?p=755#comment-3560 Interesting article, but I am giggling madly at the link in the middle of it: (See the 25 best back-to-school gadgets.) *snerk* :-D Interesting article, but I am giggling madly at the link in the middle of it: (See the 25 best back-to-school gadgets.)

*snerk* :-D

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