Sleep & Nap Issues: Nighttime Crying & Proof That Crying It Out Is OK

Don’t flame the messenger, but here’s more proof that SOME nighttime crying won’t harm your baby — and actually may help the whole family by boosting mom’s mental health. A big shout-out to mom’s health advocate Katherine Stone for being on-record about this hot-button issue. She risks the backlash that I’ve experienced here, but she does it for the health and well-being of families and babies. Kudos to you, Katherine!

The bottom line is this: Neglect, hostility, and abuse DO hurt babies. Blowing off some steam to settle down for a better night’s sleep DOESN’T. Of course, individual personalities and circumstances make a difference: Pick up and comfort your baby if she’s sick, super-scared, or if she has an unusually sensitive temperament (or, if you have a crying/barfer, like one of my kiddos. Who wants to be up all night AND clean a barfy crib?) If you want to argue, argue with the respected journal that published the research today, Pediatrics.

Judging parents for their reasonable decisions about their own children is NOT good for families and babies. So hurray for more proof that this controversial parenting decision doesn’t deserve the attacks it often gets. Parents and children who get more sleep are happier AND healthier. That’s nothing to cry about.

Aloha,

Dr. Heather

The BabyShrink
Mom of Four, Parenting Expert

Welcome to BabyShrink.com, where parents turn for open, honest and direct answers to questions regarding their babies, toddlers and children up to age seven. Dr. Heather, the author of BabyShrink, is a licensed psychologist specializing in child development. She's also the mother of four young children, which gives her the unique ability to respond to parents' inquiries about the social, emotional and behavioral development of your children from both clinical and practical points of view.

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