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How To Interpret Your Weird Pregnancy Dreams
I’ve always been fascinated
by the interpretation of dreams, and I study the process in detail. I’ve also
found it really interesting and helpful to understand my own dreams as I go
through major life changes. Our dreams are our way of sorting through the
events of the day and pulling out important issues we still need to understand.
It’s our way of communicating with ourselves; it’s our unconscious, giving us hints about things that need further thought or action.
It’s really common to have
particularly memorable and intense dreams during pregnancy. There are several
contributing factors to this:
· Frequent night wakings. I remember waking easily 3
or 4 times a night when pregnant. When you awaken just after dreaming, you are
more likely to remember the dream.
· The stress of the impending change in your life,
with a baby on the way. The stress of a major life transition is bound to
result in more active dreams.
· Hormonal and other physical changes. Your upset tummy,
sore back and soaring progesterone all throw your body’s chemistry into a new
time zone. Your dreams are disturbed as a result.
So how do you interpret those wacky dreams? The interpretation of
pregnancy dreams follows the same general rules as the interpretation of other
dreams:
· First and foremost, write them down, immediately
after waking. Keep a pen and paper at your bedside and scribble down whatever
you can remember. Even if you’re sure you’ll remember the details in the
morning, chances are…you won’t. (Dreams are funny that way. We have to “chase”
them if we want to understand them.)
· Don’t judge the dream, no matter how wacky (or
twisted) it was. Keep an open mind, which will allow the process of
understanding the dream happen more easily.
· After reading the dream again, start a new section
of notes, where you will jot down any random associations to the dream. Include
any impressions, images that come to mind, and feelings and thoughts, even if
they don’t seem related to the dream. Also list the events of the day (or days)
previous to the dream.
· Finally, re-read everything to see what
connections you make. Sometimes, you need to put the whole thing away for
awhile, to let some of your objectivity return. Later, you might see new
meanings and interesting relationships between your outer life…and your inner
mind.
Common Pregnancy Dream Themes
There are some common themes
in pregnancy dreams, many of which my readers mentioned in the comments section
to my previous post:
Generic Dream Worries –
Pregnant or not, we often dream about losing control in a situation. I think
that’s what Dawn’s dream was about, at least partially; teeth falling out is a
classic, frequent dream symbol for feeling powerless.
Worry About Not Being a Good
Mother – Sharon, MamaBigDog, and Alianora’s dreams all had this in common.
Having a baby is such a huge responsibility, and we wonder if we’re up to it.
There also could be an element of wish fulfillment there; what if I just left
my baby alone, while I did my own thing? (I could do my nails, date a fabulous
movie star, etc.) We certainly wouldn’t
do it in real life, so we act it out in our dreams. Then we’re shocked when we
wake up…Oh My God! I’ll be such a Bad Mother (there’s a club for that)! When perhaps the reality is,
there’s a part of us that resents the enormous responsibility and changes
brought about by a baby, no matter how wanted the baby is.
It’s a fundamental
dilemma of motherhood: I want to give everything to my baby. But I also need
some energy for myself. How can I get some of the focus back on ME?
Worry About Something Being Wrong
With the Baby – Kimi, Sharon and Hot Wife had dream themes along these lines.
This theme is really a variation on the one above. “If I’m going to be a Good
Mother, I’d better produce a Good Baby.” Then…what if my baby is somehow different than I expect her to be? What
if I’m disappointed at how my baby turns out? Or worse: What if there’s
something "really wrong" with her? What
if I give birth to a “defective” baby, and am therefore a “defective” mother? I can’t think of a pregnant woman who hasn’t had a dream like this one.
The worry about being a Good
Enough Mother starts before the baby is even born, dear readers! The whole
notion of the baby being an extension of ourselves starts when the baby really
IS a part of us, physically. It’s normal to have mixed, ambivalent feelings
about the baby, and your new role as mother. And if this isn’t your first baby,
it’s normal to worry about the impact the new baby can have on your nice stable
family situation at home. A new baby IS an intruder, no matter how wanted.
Having ambivalent feelings about that fact is normal. More importantly,
recognizing and accepting the mixed feelings we have about our babies…and our
children…makes it possible for us to consciously own those feelings, so that
we’re not blindsided by them, brewing in our unconscious. Understanding our
dreams helps us to do just that…ultimately, be better mothers…and happier women!
Weird Pregnancy Dreams? I Need Yours!
Miriam in Florida emailed me with some fascinating questions about dreams, whether her baby Griffin could be having them at night when
he whimpers and cries in his sleep, and about her own dreams, when she was
pregnant with him.
great article here if you want to read about infant dreams, and I like the Dr.
Greene site in general. So check that out. But before you go over there, finish
this post, because I need your help. I’m planning a series on Pregnancy Dreams,
and I need your submissions!
This is a photo of me, 9 months pregnant. Honestly, I’m not sure how I’m even standing upright. I was so sleepless at that point - disturbed by various aches and pains, and having distressing and intense dreams when I COULD sleep!
are some interesting commonalities among pregnancy dreams. They tend to be unusually vivid,
action-packed, and bizarre. We tend to remember them better than at other times
of our lives, too.
recalls, from one of her pregnancy dreams:
stock pot on the floor in the kitchen. There is no steam, but I know they’re
boiling. I’m stirring them with a long-handled slotted-spoon. The water begins
to boil away and now I am sauteeing them in the same pot. My husband is trying
to get me to make some chicken, then says that we need to go burn the marshland
to get rid of the mosquitoes. I tell him we have to talk to the committee about
it.
potatoes” as a metaphor for pregnancy. But I need Miriam’s reflections and
associations to help better understand the rest of the meaning of the dream.
She included some of the background in her email to me, so when I compile the
series, I’ll be able to share some of my interpretations with you.
of your own dreams to me at BabyShrink[at]gmail.com, and I’ll include them with
the series. It promises to be fun, interesting and illustrative of the powerful
experience of pregnancy!
